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Dear Baby Eli

Dear baby Elijah,

My first letter to you at eighteen days old. It makes me smile as Eva was eighteen days old when I first wrote to her. Just short of three weeks you have been in our life and I can not imagine a world without you.


Your baby smell is incredible and I waste so much of my day sniffing your hair, probably an equal amount of time as I spend changing your poopy nappies. It is quite different having a boy, everyone told me boys are easier to change as they have less nooks and crannies down below. I am not finding this to be true between your saggy testicles and your sprinkler winky I find there is so much that can go wrong at each nappy change. It actually quite stressed me out in the first few days as you was sprinkling every where each time, soaking your clothes and me. It has calmed down now and I have developed a bit of a technique so we have a lot fewer accidents and soakings.

Being my second born will have advantages and disadvantages for you. I feel guilty that I can not give you my undivided attention and waste hours just holding you. I sometimes have to let you cry while I finish attending to Eva’s needs. I wake you up from sleep (something I would not have dreamed of doing with Eva) to get you ready so we can all leave the house. I take you to play dates and groups you have no interest in. You play with hand me down toys and use pink blankets.  What you get instead though is hopefully much more valuable. Two parents who have experience, who know what is coming and have learnt techniques to help sooth you, calm you, comfort you and teach you. We are more relaxed and balanced with you and hopefully the icing on the cake is you get a sister who I’m sure you will fight with daily but I hope will be your best friend growing up, someone you will always have in your corner throughout life.

I have just had to go out and buy round two of new clothes for you.  you are so big and strong already. trousers and tops are not so bad but you have outgrown all your baby grows and need 3-6 months to accommodate your rather large feet. You seem to do everything on a larger scale, more feeding, more crying, more pooping but what really amazes me is the more trumping, not tiny little cute whistles but angry and loud, adult sounding explosions. I am dreading being out in public when you do this as I don’t think anyone will believe such a cute and sweet looking little thing could have produced such a noise.  The one thing you do not do more of unfortunately is sleeping. I know from being a relaxed, second time parent that sleep will come in time, I’m sure that waiting for such a time will age me at least another five to ten years and these bags under my eyes will grow into epic suitcases but you are well worth it little, big man.

So at three weeks old you have already had a photo shoot, been to soft play, the park, a windmill, an aquarium and several restaurants, cafes and pubs and we have your first holiday booked in for a few weeks time to center parks. Can not wait.  We are going with Uncle Alex, Aunty Sam and your cousins so hopefully a lot of happy memories to be made. I don’t want to wish your baby days away but I also can not wait for a few years time when all four of you (maybe even five or six of you if you act super cute around your Aunty and uncle) can run around together, probably with Eva trying to boss you all around.

I tried you with a bottle of expressed milk yesterday and to my amazement you latched and guzzled the whole thing with out any hesitation or problems. Although not something I intend to use often this opens up a whole new world for me. Eva never took a bottle so I assumed you would be the same. Breast feeding is something I enjoy so much but it can be very binding and exhausting at times. You taking a bottle means I can take time for me, exercise, relax, catch up on chores the possibilities are endless but will all equal one happier mummy so thank you for making life a little easier.

We are off to village soup now so I need to get us both ready. Eva is at her grandmas so its just mummy and Eli time. A bowl of home made soup and some gluten free pancakes are just what is needed on a wet and cold day like today. If you could kindly stay asleep while I have a catch up with some other village mums it would be greatly appreciated, up to you though as you own me.

All my love  Mummy.




Baby overload

Five weeks old today princess. Five weeks since i joined A very special and not so secret club. Motherhood! It has opened my eyes and changed the way i view others in so many ways. never again will i judge someone for their child having a snotty nose, for putting their child in front of the TV,  for giving a dummy to a crying baby, for leaving the house without looking imaculate because lets face it leaving the house at all is an achievement in itself and as for everything else, we do what we can to survive the next hour, the next night and just to get through the day. 

We visited uncle Alex and Aunty Sam today and of course your beautiful cousins. The journey usually takes around two hours but longer with road closures and diversions like today. You slept the whole way down waking just a few minutes before we arrived.

Aunty Sam is also a member of the very special, not so secret club and I actually think she could secretly be in charge of  it or be one of the senior members at least as her knowledge of all the club rules is pretty impressive. When I first met Aunty Sam I liked her instantly but since joining the club she has definitely become a very special person in our life. I have said it before that the thing I find most useful and helpful is company and Sam is always there all be it virtually when I need her most and when most othe people are blissfully sleeping, company Is company and she is like my own personal Google. Our new born experiences and styles up to now have been very different but as mentioned above as long as we are getting through the day and giving you little people everything you need nothing else is important. 

When we arrived it was code red, actually code white. So we went straight in for milk time. I hadn’t weighed you since your ten day check when you weighed 8.3lbs so when it was napply changing time we put you on Aunty Sams proper scales. Wow 10.3lbs! Sam informed me that this was the seventy something centile and then educated me on what that meant.it sounded like a Roman soldier to me. All I need to know is that you are happy and healthy. 

The visit was a little bit rushed as we went down and back in the day. But spending time with the Oxford Coultate Clan was well worth it and the amount of cuteness in that house was off the scale.


I’m sure you noticed the obvious in all the photos, how adorable little Zachy Is. But if you saw passed the cuteness and was curious about his feeding tube then I will let Aunty Sam tell you all about it in her own words.


All you need to know baby Eva is that your Aunty Sam is a very strong and amazing lady! 

Wow tiredness can make you do strange things, see unusual sites and generally make your mind play tricks on you. I have stopped finishing sentences, in my head they are complete but in reality I just drop the last couple of words to preserve energy. Today while expressing In the car to give you one of your first bottles and save pulling over and getting stuck in a cluster feed frenzy mummy nearly did something silly. I needed to empty some milk out of a bottle so i could use the teat for a new one but instead of reaching for the window winder I automatically went for the door handle whilst in the fast moving car on the m1. Some sort of sanity returned just in the nick of time and prevented me from actually opening it. You should be scared as I am In charge of growing you. 

You slept better last night. Not longer but better quality. You didn’t seem as uncomfortable and gassy as previous nights. I wonder if it is a coincidence or the fact I have been taking you off my nipple at let down so the aggressive flow dose not attack you? It’s going to make breastfeeding in public a bit more tricky but luckily I don’t care what people think,what’s so strange about a woman with her boob out firing jets of milk into a muslin? Isn’t there a similar scene in the Austin powers movie?

Anyway we have family visiting at 11am, ten of them. so we need to make a move and get our selfs and the house looking acceptable. 
Love mummy.